Breakups make us all a little crazy, and we often get in the way of our own healing.
If you’re thinking of doing any of the following, don’t. Seriously, in your breakup-hazed brain they sound like good ideas, but they aren’t. Doing one or any of the things listed below is a surefire way to make you even more miserable:
1. INSISTING ON EXCHANGING STUFF RIGHT AFTER THE BREAKUP
If you’ve been together with someone for a while, you’re bound to have intermingled stuff: T-shirts, toothbrushes, contact solution, etc. After a breakup, there are some legitimate logistical things that need to happen. Rarely do they NEED to happen right away.
Often we use “stuff” as a tether to the relationship. We may not admit it to ourselves, but a part of us is secretly hoping that when our ex comes over to get his Game of Thrones DVDs, he’ll suddenly realize he wants to get back together. This impulse is understandable but totally self-destructive.
SOLUTION: The reality is, you don’t need that toothbrush back. Let it go. Your sanity is more important than stuff. Box up his stuff, and put it in a closet. If there are items that really do need to be exchanged right away, box it all up at once, and find a way to make the exchangewithout having to see him. Couriers are an option as are best friends who’ll drop off his crap for free!
2. SEND AN ANGRY EMAIL
It is natural... (cont'd)
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