True Confessions: Tinder Date #30 Girl-on-Girl!+comment
I never mentioned it before, but back in October I changed my match settings to meet women. This 50 first dates series would not be complete without a little open mindedness. I’ve never been in a relationship with a woman before, but I have slept with a few. (One of them is still a very close friend.) I’m a firm believer that an orgasm is an orgasm, whether it comes from a man, a woman, or a plastic device that you keep under your pillow. (Santa, if you’re reading: throw some batteries in my stocking, please.)
What is Real Beauty?+comment
No matter how much progress women have made in society, there is still an incredible premium put on a woman’s looks. For men, being desirable and being handsome are two different things, because a man’s humor or strength or talent or wealth or a dozen other qualities color how desirable he is perceived to be. By and large, a woman’s perceived desirability is based almost entirely on her perceived beauty. Sure, we can be doctors and lawyers now-a-days, but if we want to be seen as important or desirable, we better be hot doctors and hot lawyers. Not only is the pressure to be beautiful incredibly pervasive in our culture, but what is considered beautiful is so extremely narrow. And though I reject the double standard society places on men and women when it comes to beauty, because it is unfair and destructive, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t effect me.