The Science of Awesomeness in Relationship Success
Recently I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts, Freakonomics, when they hosted a live game show/talk show, “Tell Me Something I Don’t Know” where guests would try to impress judges with things they didn’t know. One of the guests, Melissa Schneider, a dating and relationship counselor told the judges about something very interesting. Basically, researchers really want to know what makes couples stay together or breakup. What makes a successful couple? Well, did you know you need to have the awesomeness factor? I’ll let Melissa explain…
“So people always want to know what should I be looking for in an early dating relationships, what predicts that it’s going to be successful or breakup? There’s great research done in 2010, looked at 37,000 dating couples in different countries, and they looked at 30 factors that had been studied at least four times to figure out like what actually matters? What makes a difference in who stays together and who breaks up. And the number one factor was a big surprise to everyone conducting the study. It wasn’t commitment, or love, or trust, or the things that you’d expect. It was something called the “awesomeness factor.” That’s what I call it. It was actually called “positive illusions… but I like to call it the awesomeness factor because the
Everything You Wanted to Know About Tinder! Part 2+comment
Christina Walkinshaw shared her thoughts on her epic, year-long Tinder challenge to go on 50 first dates. What did she learn about dating, men, herself and any other epiphanies from going on a Tinder date a week for an entire year? What makes a girl swipe right?
Why Has Halloween Become a “Slutty” Holiday?+comment
When did Halloween become a ‘let’s dress slutty’ night? It seems in the last 10 years, scary or clever morphed into directly into slutty. I think it says something about where things are going in terms of women in the media and their portrayals. I think this has been influenced by sex tapes and reality tv of girls running around in bikinis, fighting, drinking and just an over sexualization of women in general…They make a sexy Mr. Potato Head outfit. Who wants to see or be a sexy Mr. Potato Head? Who thinks someone should be a sexy Mr. Potato Head? But I’m not the only one concerned.