We dated the Zeros… so you don’t have to.


Attention is….


“Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” Simon Well

Rape Jokes – Can We Stop Now (myself included)?


I’ve always considered myself a pretty ardent feminist. I know some women really flinch at that word, but I don’t know a better one for supporting women’s equality, equal pay, reproductive rights and defending women’s integrity and standing in the world. That being said, I just got called out professionally for a rape joke in an article I’d written. While I understood their rejection, I felt really shitty and couldn’t believe that I’d write something that might even, in some small way, endorse our rape culture.

Why I needed a break from one of my most intimate relationships


this week I decided that I had to take a break from one particular relationship. Though it has brought be a lot of joy over the years, lately I’ve begun to feel that it just isn’t healthy. I’ve become clingy and co-dependent and it has been causing me to neglect my other relationships. Yup, that’s right. I’m taking about my relationship with my iPhone.

Summer Life Hacks You Can Actually Use


This is the time of year when publications start offering their helpful tips for the “Best Ever Summer!” You know, tips like “How to turn your old t-shirt into a super cute beach bag!” or “Your bikini body in 15 minutes a day! (provided you’re starting out with the base body of Mila Kunis).” I like tips and tricks as much as the next person but how about some with more practical applications? If you’re truly desperate, I will give you a tip, one that has been used by college students throughout the ages: Jack and Coke, concealed in a travel mug. Assign a driver and enjoy.

How to get rid of Bat-wing arms. Seriously.


This is unfortunate since I live in LA, where, for most of the year, it is so hot that the only sane thing to do is to wear as little clothing as considered decent. In the the past, in order to not hate all pictures taken between May and September, I ‘d contort myself into some sort of Venus Di Milo pose so that my arms were entirely out of the picture.

Every Romantic Comedy Ever (almost)


The cool guys at Pleated Jeans have made a perfect Rom Com mash-up. Basically saying what I’ve said for years, that the romantic comedy tropes while a little addictive, are ultimately insulting, unrealistic and just ridiculous. (The main exception being When Harry Met Sally, which is a perfect movie. Fact.)

Are You Ready For Love?


As The Voice is to American Idol, NBC is launching Ready for Love tomorrow night. The twist here is two-fold, it’s got three hot bachelors instead of one (more hot tub scenes I imagine), and it’s hired three “matchmakers” who have helped select the potential bachelorettes for the hot bachelors and will guide the bachelors along the way. Also, Eva Longoria, the executive producer, approved the bachelors. Didn’t Eva Longoria have her marriage break-up over finding out her husband was cheating on her with his teammate’s wife? Maybe she needs dating advice, or maybe she’s not the best at picking great guys? Or maybe she should pick one of them for herself if they are so great? Just a few thoughts.

Game of Thrones Relationship Rules


This Sunday Game of Thrones is back! It’s absurdly addictive and while the feminist in me wanted to be really upset about certain aspects (like how they share long exposition by having the brothel-owner talk while also instructing two of his whores as they are going down on each other, or the ridiculous amount of doggie-style sex practiced by House Lannister, House Targaryen & House Baratheon – okay, everyone does it doggie-style on this show), I can’t help myself. This show is like crack-cocaine. Since this is a relationship/dating blog, I thought I’d marry the two and see the relationship lessons we’ve gleaned from this epic series – both on screen and in the books. There is a lot of love, lust, marriage, secret relationships and more in this series…oh yeah, and dragons.

4 Disney Princesses You Really Don’t Want to Be


Luckily, I’m not the only one who wants the shine taken off these “fairy tales” and think their lives aren’t as happily ever after as we’d like to believe. This amazing singer on youtube, Paint, put together a whole song, set to the music of the Disney musicals, explaining the future lives of the princesses. It’s amazing, and I hope he ends up on “Glee” because this guy is great. He breaks down Belle (Beauty and the Beast), Ariel (The Little Mermaid), Jasmine (Aladdin), and Pocahontas (well, you can guess which movie she in in). I hope he takes on Cinderella, Snow White, Aurora and Rapunzel. Watch the video – it’s worth it.