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The Accidentally-On-Purpose Text Message

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The story you are about to read is true.  The names have been changed to protect the innocent (or the not so innocent, depending on your opinion).

It was 1am on a random Tuesday night.  Our heroine was fast asleep in her bed, dreaming of sugar plum fairies, or some such thing.  Suddenly she was awoken by the sound of her phone vibrating with a text message.  She pointedly ignored it.  A few moments later, the phone buzzed with another text. Fearing the worst, our heroine arose from her slumber and reached for her phone.

“Hey baby.” Read the text message from the guy that our heroine had gone on a few dates with about six months ago.

“Oops, wrong person!” Was the second message from the same guy.

Uh, yeah, right.

Aah, the accidental text message.  Or, rather, the not-so-accidental text message.  Because, honestly, in this day and age of smart phones and smarter texters, is there such a thing as the accidental text?

Since I am nothing if not an amateur scientist (stop laughing), I pulled out my own phone to see if I could recreate this occurrence.  I have an iPhone and it sorts my text messages into conversations.  The ones at the very top are from the people I text and talk to all the time: my boyfriend, my sister, my mom. Logically, if I wasn’t paying attention, I might send my sister a text meant for my mom, or vice versa.  However, if I haven’t texted someone in months they are not at the top of my message list and, thus, almost impossible to “accidentally” text.  And, I’m sorry, but I don’t buy the “well, maybe the two girls had similar names,” such as Liz and Lisa.  If he was supposedly texting a girlfriend, then wouldn’t there be an existing conversation between the two? He wouldn’t have to go into his address book to find her. Consequentially, he could not have accidentally texted our heroine. Ladies and gentlemen, the prosecution rests!

The fact that I watch too much “Law and Order” aside, the accidental text really is quite the interesting conundrum. It’s one way to remind someone that you still exist. It, perhaps, opens up a new conversation with someone you haven’t spoken to in a long time. However, it’s kind of a lame move. Why not just call the person if you really want to talk to them? Why fake a text? Apparently, even flirting has gone the passive aggressive route these days.

The digital age leaves a lot open to interpretation. It’s difficult to read tones, or intentions, when you cannot hear a person’s tone or see their face. Likewise, it’s a lot easier to hide behind “Oops, accidentally hit send!” when your message doesn’t achieve the desired result.

What say you, dear reader? Are you Team Accidental Text or Team On Purpose?  Should we forgive the Phantom Texter or place him in the Hall of Passive Aggressive Daters*?

*Not technically a real thing…yet.

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Elisabeth Fitzgerald

About the author: Elisabeth Fitzgerald

Elisabeth Fitzgerald is a Chicago born, Los Angeles based writer. In addition to writing fiction and non-fiction, she also works in the entertainment industry. When not holed up with a pen in her hand or a script at her side, she enjoys Tejano music, vintage clothing and tricking herself into exercising with yoga. Her dislikes catalog a number of prominent ZEROS.

Elisabeth has written 63 articles for us.

5 Responses to “The Accidentally-On-Purpose Text Message”

  1. Anna Keizer November 13, 2011 at 1:36 pm

    I think an accidental text is possible, but it would be a truly accidental text like “xibekdgheteo.” I did that just a few weeks ago and sent a random string of letters to a friend. However, to send a coherent “accidental” text – to an ex no less (why is her number still in his phone??) – seems a little farfetched.

  2. May 13, 2012 at 3:52 pm

    How do we know he has a smart phone?

    I don’t have one and I accidentally text a guy a message meant for another guy once. The guy who got the message was an ex but the other guy was just a friend. They, happened to have the same name and it was so long since I texted the ex I didn’t realise his number was in my phone still..

  3. December 29, 2012 at 10:50 pm

    No, I don’t think this scenario really happens. I think it is a manipulation of the ease of text that can easily be excused – wrong number. I have texted the wrong people before, and received random wrong texts, always with an immediate follow up to it. I can be accountable for my mess ups. I am burned by this idea because it is how my ex-best friend tested the waters with my hubby if 11 years. Not cool. Not an accident. :(.

    Thanks for the article!
    Burned

  4. March 18, 2014 at 4:00 pm

    Lol I just accidentally on-purpose text my crush. Lol I don’t think he bought the accidental excuse either. Great…now I feel lame.

  5. June 26, 2014 at 7:10 am

    I had a what i thought could be an accidental on purpose text from my ex last week. I have not contacted him for nearly a year. I got a blank text and i have had the missed phone calls before too. When i replied you sent a blank text?, he answered with i pressed the wrong button sorry, and then another text with just “sorry”. I sent one saying its ok . Next night someone was buzzing my flat number but i rarely answer if i dont know who it is!. Well if its him i guess this sequence will be repeated soon. Its just like him, he cant seem to talk about anything intimate or get emotional with me. :(

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