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The Things We Learn for Love


The other night I had an entire conversation about Tim Tebow with my boyfriend.  I expressed my disgust with the fact that he only really starts to play in the fourth quarter and what the heck is Tebowing anyway?  My beau was definitely pleased by the conversation, ranting about Tebow and throwing some shade onto Tom Brady for good measure.

The truly funny thing about the conversation in question?  I wouldn’t know Tim Tebow if he sat down next to me wearing his football uniform.  Everything I contributed to the conversation had been cobbled  together from various comedians and the occasional Twitter comment.  But the important thing was that it made my boyfriend happy.  He was able to talk about something he liked and it provided us with a special bonding moment.

I’ve often heard people say that you shouldn’t have to change yourself for your partner and I absolutely agree with that statement.  However, I do think that it’s important to learn about your partner’s interests.  My boyfriend has never asked me to become a sports girl.  But I do attend baseball games, etc, when he asks me to.  I even try to pay attention so I can figure out who I’m supposed to cheer for.

Likewise, he makes an effort to pay attention to things that he has absolutely no interest in, like when Jersey Shore comes back on the air or which of my friends recent broke up or got engaged.  We haven’t changed who we are, we’ve just grown to accommodate the other person.

Relationships are all about growth.  Sometimes we grow apart and sometimes we’re lucky enough to grow together.  Does having a passing knowledge of Tim Tebow change the core of who I am as a person?  No more than having a basic understanding of Buffy, the Vampire Slayer kills my boyfriend’s soul.  We have plenty of things in common but we also respect the things that we don’t have in common.  I think that sports are fairly ridiculous, but I get that he digs them.  And I’ll do my best to join in with the conversation every now and then.  He’s often told me that he doesn’t understand what an educated woman gets out of watching Jersey Shore, but he lets it slide and simply excuses himself to another room when the show comes on.

Ultimately, it really doesn’t matter what I do or don’t know about Tim Tebow or Tom Brady or whomever.  The important thing is that my guy knows and he’s always willing to teach me new things.  And I’ll always listen.


Elisabeth Fitzgerald

About the author: Elisabeth Fitzgerald

Elisabeth Fitzgerald is a Chicago born, Los Angeles based writer. In addition to writing fiction and non-fiction, she also works in the entertainment industry. When not holed up with a pen in her hand or a script at her side, she enjoys Tejano music, vintage clothing and tricking herself into exercising with yoga. Her dislikes catalog a number of prominent ZEROS.

Elisabeth has written 63 articles for us.

One Response to “The Things We Learn for Love”

  1. Claudia Maittlen-Harris December 15, 2011 at 3:34 pm

    This is why I know so much about Jay Cutler, and in return, my guy watched all the Harry Potter films on dvd (in quick succession) with me so he would know what was happening when I dragged him to the final 2 films. He may not love Harry, but he loves me (and vice versa about the Bears).

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