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Why Girls Night and Man Caves Are Necessary


ladies_night_outI love my fiancé.  Of course I do. However, there is such a thing as too much together time. My guy has been laid up for a long time due to Achilles surgery and while it’s awesome to have him around it is also sometimes….not so awesome.

I’ve known women, as I’m sure we all have, that just seem to disappear when a new guy enters their life.  Suddenly their relationship is their world and everything else, like their girlfriends, falls to the wayside. I confess that I’ve never understood girls like that. Spending too much time with one person, any one person, seems like a terrible idea. You run the risk of becoming too comfortable with each other, and that’s never a good thing for a relationship.

Which is why I completely value my girls’ nights out. Or, in my case, girls night in. Once a week I get together with my friends to chat, drink and watch Mad Men. Even when my guy is home he respectfully vacates to another room and appears only to say hello, offer food and occasionally refill wine glasses.  Other than that, he’s in a man cave. The only boy allowed at our girls’ night is the dog! It’s usually the highlight of my week and it’s saved my sanity on more than one occasion. And, truly, I think it makes me better at my relationship. After spending time with my girlfriends I feel renewed and appreciative of my guy. Suddenly, it’s nice to see him, even if it has only been two hours in the other room.

You should never make one person your whole world, be it your husband, best friend, child or boss. We seem to forget that balance is a vital part of life, even (or especially) when it comes to relationships. You wouldn’t eat mashed potatoes every day for the rest of your life, would you? Well, maybe, but you probably shouldn’t. It’s not healthy. Your diet needs balance and so does your life. Take some time away from your significant other. You both need to have individual interests and hobbies. No one wants to hang out with two people who are clones of each other. Besides, it is very easy to find yourself resenting something that is overly familiar and you really don’t want that something to be your guy. Take some time for you and you’ll both be glad you did.


Elisabeth Fitzgerald

About the author: Elisabeth Fitzgerald

Elisabeth Fitzgerald is a Chicago born, Los Angeles based writer. In addition to writing fiction and non-fiction, she also works in the entertainment industry. When not holed up with a pen in her hand or a script at her side, she enjoys Tejano music, vintage clothing and tricking herself into exercising with yoga. Her dislikes catalog a number of prominent ZEROS.

Elisabeth has written 63 articles for us.

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